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In my childhood years I remember attending quite a few weddings , mainly with my grandparents. I remember how well groomed the members of the wedding party appeared. My grandfather was once asked to be a give away father because the real father of the bride was unable to attend the wedding due to illness. My grandfather wore a grey suit with bright shiny cuff links that allowed the golden rays of the afternoon sun to bounce off them with glee.
The groomsmen wore nicely tailored suits with small rose buds trimmed with green leaves in their lapels. How well mannered they appeared as they walked half way down the isle to escort the bridesmaid that was their partner in the wedding. The girls were always elegantly dressed in evening gowns and spike heels. I was too young to wear those kinds of outfits. I usually sat with my grandmother and spoke only when I was addressed directly by an adult.
I enjoyed the reception more than the ceremony itself, when I was young. I liked the speeches that the members of the bridal party gave. I enjoyed the toast to the bride and also to the groom. I also liked to listen to the toasts to the bridesmaids and maid of honor. The toasts to the parents of the bride and groom were the highlights of the evening. I still enjoy attending weddings now that I am an adult, but it seems as if the finer details are often missing.
People no longer feel the need to behave ‘out of place’ when they are invited to the wedding of a bi -racial couple. Gone are the days when couples from different racial/ ethnic backgrounds allowed individuals who feel strongly about these issues, to influence their world view and ultimately their behaviors.
Every individual deserves to be respected until he/she provides enough reason not to be respected. A wedding is a joyful occasion to which friends and family are invited to come together to celebrate the beginning of a new union. There should be laughter, tears of joy, hugs and exchange of sentiments. Everyone should be prepared to throw caution to the wind as they celebrate the new beginning of life together for the bride and groom. There should be music and dancing and lifting of champagne flutes to offer creative toasts to the special couple.
It is strongly believed that the laughter, fun and celebration should only get better after the “I do’s” are done. The special couple should be encouraged to delve into life with a spirit of celebration and lots of encouragement from friends and family. These special people who can be counted on to be a system of support as they navigate the sometimes winding path called marriage. Cheers to the bi-racial couple!
A ring pillow provides an important cushion on which one of the most important wedding symbols usually sits. The broom is also an important symbol in many African American weddings. Jumping the symbolic broom is believed to be a page from the book of African American tradition. A young man and his young bride were not considered to have formally crossed the treshold from their old life into their new life if they did not jump the broom. The broom was believed to be symbolic of a wall. This wall was a reminder of the commitment the couple made to each other. The commitment to forsake all others and to cleave to each other.
Even though jumping the broom is considered an African American wedding tradition, the meaning transcends both race and culture. Every new bride and groom regardless of race and culture would like to have a marriage that is rich with true love and loyalty to their wedding vows. Couples truly want honesty and trust in their relationship. I believe they want transparency in their love relationship and less influence from Hollywood.
I believe an informal poll would reveal that more couples prefer the concept of the ‘wall’ in their marriage. The ‘wall’ that blocks out anything destructive to the marriage relationship and embraces those things that enhance the marriage.
My husband and I got married twenty eight years ago. Our wedding day was a Saturday and the month was December. It was just three days before Christmas. We were excited about our special day and we looked towards it with great expectations. At last the day we waited for had arrived. The guests were quite generous and provided us with numerous wedding gifts. We had no set protocol to follow so we allowed our love for each other to lead the way. He was all mine and I was all his. I really liked that unwritten rule.
Soon a year had passed and we were celebrating our first year together as man and wife. Before long we were again celebrating an anniversary. It was shortly after this second celebration that the morning sickness started and we found that we were expecting our fist child. Today this child is twenty six years old and a pleasure to be around.
Romance will be the theme of your big day with this gorgeous Elegance Unity Candle. With its one of a kind personalization and classic form, this unity candle will remain a treasured keepsake for years to come. May be sold individually or as a 3 piece set. Three piece set includes a pillar unity candle, two tapers and a candle stand. White candle sets are sold with a silver candle stand, and ivory candles are sold with a gold candle stand. Pillar features a soft scent of vanilla.
Details:
Size: Pillar candle measures 3″ by 9 inches. Tapers measure 10 inches. Stands measure 4 1/2″ wide by 12 1/2″ long by 4 inches tall.
Materials: Scented candle wax and silver/gold-plated stands
Engraving Options:
Our Elegance Unity Candle may be engraved with two block first names separated by an ampersand (max of 12 characters per name), a numeric date and a single script initial, which will be placed largely in the background at No Additional Cost.